words to live by

ALWAYS LOVE.

this is the title of a Nada surf song that i like. sweet message. "always love, hate will get you every time" I guess hating is not a good thing, but always loving seems like a way vulnerable state. Of course, i guess loving doesn't mean you have to be stupid. Learning curves can be steep though. Someday, hopefully soon, my heart will catch up with my head. other Dan told me that. I call him other Dan because real Dan is my best friend.
I think it is imperative that one put ones heart into whatever one might do. otherwise, what is the point? i think it would just be a big waste to do something without heart. Although maybe I am wrong. putting ones heart into everything could get exhausting. But when I am in the studio it makes everything else i do so much better, even the way I socialize. I just get a nice case of the happies more often. I'm not a particularly hateful person, but i have felt at times that this is annoying. Sometimes I have really just wanted to hate people that werent necessarily good for me just so that I could get away from icky situations.
on occasion though people have gotten "the best" of me. Sometimes it can be kinda of a release to just hate something. hypothetically: lets say a boyfriend and a best friend were doing it behind ones back. I'm totally not against destroying something valuable of either one of theirs. From there i would just let judge Judy handle it. in reality if my best friend Dan were making out withe my boyfriend I would mostly feel really stupid for not being able to tell that either of them were gay. People can go too far though. I have been a witness to this. Being manipulative and hurting people for your own personal gain is a true character marker of someone who should be avoided. I like to believe that people can change but when I see people expressing that kind of behavior I would rather not witness their transformation into real human beings.

It is good to be smart with ones heart. I have had some friendships that weren't all that beneficial to me; which have taught me to be a stronger person. I really value people and their company and I also like to think I am valued. It is important to realize that people grow at different rates and friendships will change over time. heart and soul should be put into everything, life is too fleeting to be half-assed.
Unless, you're a serial killer and you love killing. you probably should just turn yourself into the cops in that case. I just don't think killing innocent people really helps anyone. Unless you kill rapists or people that don't like me (fuck them, umm, i mean, i love them).
damn I digressed A LOT.
i guess that means INS AND OUTS:
IN: putting love into life
OUT: hating, seriously it just makes you feel angry, frown lines, not cute!
stop drinking that hatorade and get yourself a nice bottle of love potion number nine